When A Nurse Says Goodbye

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Just the other day, I was asked, “How do you sleep at night?” by the friend of a patient who was dying.  But I was not asked nicely.  I was asked very sarcastically because I was one of the participants in the bearer of bad news.  “There is nothing else we can do.  Your loved one is going to die.”

Nurses don’t enjoy being the “bad guy.”  And we don’t “enjoy” having to agree with the bad news just given to the loved ones of those dying.  The truth is, every one of us would love nothing more than to see you get that miracle you are praying for.   But we would rather be the bearers of bad news that the encouragers of false hopes.

Twelve-hour shifts – Often several of them in a row, with breaks only long enough for a drive home, a shower, and a “nap” before returning to care for very sick people all over again.  Exhausting!  And not only physically – But emotionally as well.

You see, we may leave our charting at work.  But we bring our worries home with us.

“Did I miss anything?”   “Was there anything else I could have done for her today?”   And at 2 a.m., when we wake up for a moment in the night, our thoughts immediately as we look at the clock return to your loved one – “Gosh, I wonder how she’s doing tonight.”

We know every inch of our patient’s skin.  We know how they react to our touch, how they respond to each one of their family members, and know how they will respond to their medications.  We watch people go in and out of the rooms, and we very protectively question them – “Who are you?”  “Did you need something?”    Or to technicians who enter our room “What are you doing with my patient?”  We turn them, tuck them in with soft pillows, rub their feet with lotion, cover them snuggly, reassure them, caress their forehead, and tell them it’s going to be okay.

And we tell them goodbye.

Often some of the most intimate moments are behind curtains with the door closed.  We really do care for your loved ones.  Nurses are people too.  We are mothers, daughters, sons, fathers, brothers, and sisters.  And we too, have lost loved ones.  We know what a breaking heart feels like, and when your loved one is dying, and we have had the privilege of caring for them – Our heart gets another ache in it, and it often causes us to recall loved ones we miss dearly!

So, we close the curtain.  We caress their forehead, hold their hand.  We look them in the eye and we say, “You did a good job.  You are a GOOD mom!  A GOOD dad!  And your kids are going to be okay!”   What a privilege it is to care for your loved one…..

I missed saying goodbye to the family member of my patient the other day, because I was off the floor when he left.  I sooo regret missing seeing him off, because he was so appreciative and kind.   I would have liked to say goodbye.

So, because I was unable to tell him – I’d like to tell anyone who has ever told a nurse that they appreciated her (or him) – Here is what I would have told him…..

Thank you!   Thanks for the honor of caring for your loved one.  Thank you for acknowledging me and not being angry at me because of the horrible prognosis we hated giving  you.  Thank you for having the courage and strength to honor your loved one’s wishes and letting them go with dignity, and comfort, and peace!

Thank you, for treating ME kindly.

We nurses care for ALL of our patients.  But sometimes, there are just some who we will never, ever forget.

And remember that very last “turn” with the curtain drawn and the door closed?  That just might have been, when the nurse said goodbye…..

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272 thoughts on “When A Nurse Says Goodbye

  1. foxyferchak

    Having been a hospice nurse for several years, I can say that you captured the essence totally. I appreciate your thoughts. Nurses run on empty many shifts, but we always try to give give give. Very few acknowledge us or our endless sacrifices and giving. Thank you for doing so here.

    1. ken

      I worked for a medical supply company ,one day i was delivering some equipment to a patients home and i was joking around and having a great time with the patient who just got word he wasn’t going to be here much longer .the family ask the hospice nurse if they could get me to come by more often just to see their daddy smile all the time with what time he had left.So i agreed to do this but I get to close to people and hate to see someone die,this man told me he wished the world was more like me always laughing and cutting up,first thing that came to my mind and i said it to him was the world is just like me they just don’t know how to let it out, he said I love you ken thank you for making a dying man happy again, with a big smile on his face he took his last breath and died with a smile still on his face .this man touch ed my heart so much,but it was hard for me to keep going to peoples houses and watching them pass that i had to leave that type of work.but to this day i still try to make people happy just by joking with them and making them smile

      1. Sonya

        I can completely understand how hard that was for you. But, I am so incredibly proud of you for doing what you could to help that family and their loved one. Obviously, he became a loved one of your own. I understand why you left your line of work also. When my little brother died, I worked in a call center, and when my customers would call in and tell me their heartbreaking stories, I would have to get off the phone because I was crying. I became so emotional. I eventually left that job as well. And, at this point in my life, I just want a simple job, nothing emotional. Because I still cry too much.

        I wish you well on all of your future endeavors. Please take care of yourself.

        1. Elizabeth

          This world tells you and makes you believe you cry too much, and I want to tell you that you don’t! I have been told plenty of times “I cry too much” and it’s a sign of weakness. I disagree completely!! It is a sign of strength, compassion and love! If you are crying with your patients families, coworkers, etc… You are allowing them the honor to see just how deep your love and devotion runs… And it is also a healthy release of something that, if kept bottled up, could eventually erupt in a bad way!
          I am a vet tech and an MST (we work along side RNs dealing w/patient care, blood draws and ekgs). I cry with families and patients all the time! As a vet tech, I see so many patients and families at their lowest moments… And I’ve been thanked soooo many times for crying with them bc they knew they weren’t alone and how it was a comfort knowing someone that compassionate was caring for their beloved companion. So… Cry and cry hard. Show the world that you are compassionate! Don’t let this world convince you that you are weak or “soft”… But don’t let sadness consume you. Praying for you

          1. Linda

            As a trauma critical care nurse I 100% agree with you! I am human with a heart n soul that feels. Sharing this with families allows them comfort of seeing n feeling the compassion most of us nurses have! 35 yrs = a hell of a lot of tears!

        2. Sue Steiner

          I dearly appreciate the ones who stay and not become bitter, and also understand the leaving. I am kind of in the middle myself right now. I work with kids at a rehab center and some (most) have some kind of chronic health problem- anywhere from cancer, to TBIs, cerebral palsy to car accidents or abuse. You get attached to them. Most of the time I get to watch them improve and overcome obtacles but its not a given. Last week was a tough week and today I am exhausted.

        3. Rose

          Try not to be hard on yourself for crying “too much”. It’s a good thing to be empathetic – it’s why many of us are good at these types of jobs. We can understand people because we can put ourselves in their shoes. But it’s true that when you’re very empathetic everything hurts you. Even watching sad news stories affects me. One of the reasons I don’t watch awful videos and perhaps one of the reasons I’ve moved from Psychiatry after 10 years to Midwifery and Breastfeeding help. It’s amazing to help in the happy moments sometimes too.

      2. Cindy Hallbeck

        Too bad you had to leave your job Ken … but I totally understand. It really is too bad that there are not more people like you. Kuddo’s to you, It takes a strong person to be able to do what you did. Keep smiling … :-)

      3. melissa taylor

        This is almost the same exact story of a man that delivered oxygen supplies to my dying grandfather in taylorsville ky by the way I am a nurse now

      4. Shauna McDaniel

        They will never forget you for that. You obviously made a big impact on that family and they made a big impact on you too. Not many professions have the opportunity to do that. I consider it an honor.

      5. Carie Nydza

        I understand how you feel Ken. My goal for everyday of my life has been to make a difference in someone’s life. Some days it may be life changing. Some days it is as simple as causing them to smile. In any case, no matter how small, there is a positive change, if only for that moment. There have been people who have been in my life for a short time who have actually come back and thanked me for this. Success!

      6. Donna gatsoulis

        What a difference you made in his life! Thank God you continue to do this, just not at that type of job! God bless you!

    2. Nicole

      God bless you being a hospice nurse. I myself am a neonatal nurse practitioner and yes I’ve had my fair share of death, I still feel grateful for those like you who took care of my aunt who was dying of lung cancer in hospice.

    3. sandy roberts

      thank hospice nurses for being there for my sisters and i , when our dad suffered a stroke in April, and passed 5 days later, they were with us all the way….always comforting and loving made us feel thst it was ok to say goodbye dad…Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

    4. Mag jaxon

      Ditto,
      Said goodbye to too many
      Top picture’s real, bottom picture’s posed to pull heart strings. Nurses don’t stand in the corridor and weep. They carry the hurt in their heart while they push the med cart and chart the next patient. Until they are alone in private they exhale the genuine feelings. Nurses are some of the best advocates for your loved ones. Treat them as such ❤️

      1. Jackie

        Not always, I lost a patient last week that I tried so hard to save and it was all I could do to make it out of the room into the hallway before I fell apart. I care for all my pts as best as I can, but some really touch your heart and you’ll never forget them.

      2. RNC, CHPN

        In reality,
        I don’t stand in the corridor and weep: I am usually right inside the med room crying my eyes out. Or hugging a family member of my patient, who is holding on to me. There are times when it does more than touches you. There are times when I am leaning against the rail in the hall and tears are just falling. I am past being stoic. I am in the moment with the people who need me. The paper work will get done but in that sudden moment between life and the death I am a compassionate human. And not afraid to show it. After 38 years as a nurse, I know it is important to be involved and then let it go.

    5. Ben MSISKA

      Ken, you are awesome. We need more of your kind. I’m a Crisis Care Nurse and you raise a very good point. Even as death is a sad transition, it should not be made so sad & regretful for the main actor. Let me them go on knowing that they left strong able bodied individuals able to carry on their torch & legacy.

  2. Alexandra L. Nagel

    I have been an ICU nurse for 21 years now, and have seen my share of the smiles, relieved sighs, the happiness apparent in people’s faces when they hear the good news that their loved one is definitely getting better. And I also have seen oceans of tears, the accusatory looks directed at us for letting them down and not making their loved ones get better. I have been treated as a lowly maid by some, made to feel bad by many and told I wasn’t doing a good enough job of taking care of my patients.

    If I haven’t shed tears with you openly when you lost a loved one, it certainly doesn’t mean that your loss has not affected me to the core of my being. It just means that after being a critical care nurse for all these years, I have learned to bury my own feelings while I am at work, so I can work efficiently caring for my other patients. Little do you know that on my lonely drive home, my heart is aching with you for your loss, my eyes dry of unshed tears in your behalf, my whole being yearning to have given you the good news you wanted to hear.

    Please understand, nurses may be smiling and even laughing, but please don’t assume we are being callous and unfeeling. We carry your burden of loss in addition to our own personal burdens in our shoulders. Many of us go home to pets, nobody to talk to, not a one to listen to our own loads.

    A simple “thank you” or even just a smile, would make us feel better so we can carry on and come back lighter in spirit to continue caring for our sick patients the best way we can.

    1. laura

      Wow, that was powerful! Thank you for explaining so thoroughly and accurately my feelings when at a loss of words to describe it myself.

    2. Cassey Botter

      wow that was beautifully said…I have been a CNA for 6 years and I have witnessed first hand how losing a loved one effects others. I always try and put myself in the families shoes and think about how I’m caring for their loved one.I imagine it’s my parents or grandparents even my siblings that I’m taking care of and I give them all the best care and respect that I can. I love taking care of and helping people and I can definitely say If your heart is not in it than your in the wrong profession. I have lost a lot of dear and special people to me over the past few years including my parents and grandparents. It’s a pain that never goes away but one that helps me console my residents families when they lose their loved ones. Anyone working in the medical field has a hard job but I believe God created us to be special angels for all our patients and residents who need us on a daily basis.

      1. Christina

        I agree. Ive been a CNA for 4 years we deal with a lot. I love everyb one of my residents like my very own family. And its hard losing a loved one and thats exactly what my residents are family.

      2. mystikreader

        I to am a CNA. I have been for 13 yrs now. I love what I do and consider my residents to be an extension of my own family. I have heard it all. I’m not doing enough or not doing it fast enough. I have also heard thank you for taking the time to make mom hair,face,whatever up like she likes it. I have sat with patients while they were dying and cry for them often. I once held the head of a man who wanted to not be alone and was holding his head as he drew his last breath. I will never forget him. About a month ago I ran into the daughter of a former patient in the bank. I’m sure the people their thought we were odd because we stood there hugging and crying. Her mother was a sweet special person with a quick wit even at her lowest points. Before she left, she gave me a picture of her mom and dad(also passed) and told me that she thought of me as one of the family andsaid thank you for making her mom’s time happy and beautiful. It was nice to hear that I had made such an impact. You are right when you say that your heart must be in it to do this kind of work.

        Jen

    3. Mikaylas mom

      Yes…you are so right. Being a new nurse, I find myself being a little more raw..(in private). Seeing death more than you’d like to is hard for anyone and without the support of someone to listen who understands what you are going to makes it so hard for them to understand.

    4. Sandy

      My husband was in ICU in Miami for about 2 years on and off. The nurses that worked there were some of the greatest nurses I ever met. They treated me and my husband like family. There were some nurses there that were not so nice, so we stayed very positive and said we only wanted certain nurses to take care of Eddie. The care he received was some of the best I have seen I am a CNA and worked in hospitals and saw how different nurses can be. At the end of his life the parade of nurses that came through his room to say their goodbyes was so overwhelming and you felt their pain as well as yours because they would tell me he was like their family member.They made me feel so happy that he was going with a great send off to heaven with so many people who really cared and loved him. I thanked his nurses everyday for everything that was done for him. I wanted each and every one of them to know that i appreciated them and what they did to help get through another day even when the day was a very difficult one. So to all nurses who give their all to the patients and their families I say Thank You So Much for what you do. You are appreciated!!

    5. Linda

      WOW Alexandra….Do we work together in another life? I was a ICU Nurse 21 yrs Trauma 1, Liver Kinney Pancreas Heart Transplant, Neuro was all the specialities I did. Your powerful honest message was heartfelt…
      Thank you.

      I changed career paths n became a CWOCN. This allowed me to give personal care n educational needs to my patients n family.

      I am now semi retired after 35 yrs..The last 3yrs I went full circle working on a step down unit. Today you can hardly care for patients n family like back in 80’s-2000. But none the less I too was criticized for being compassionate n spending “too much time” with fmly/pt. I decided if I can’t b the nurse that I am…God must have a new plan for me.

      I am now doing Hospice Nursing!!! I get to cry n spend as much time with my pt n family as they beed!

  3. Connie

    Want to thank the Hospice nurses who guided my husband through the last days of his journey. Could not have got through with out them

  4. Ketha Mock

    It takes only a few seconds to allow a loved one to go without guilt for what he or she sees as leaving behind those they have loved and cared for their entire lives, it is painful, it is hard and it hurts but you are not the only one that was touched by this loved one, all that you seen that was good, kind and loving in this person, so did their doctors, nurses and sometimes even though it was only a short time, so did that stranger who was in the room with your loved one, So look around and say thank you to those that were there quietly seeing your loved one go on to meet his or her maker, most often although you are driving quickly, or trying to get back to the room you just stepped outside the door of, It is them that held his or her hand and whispered the words of love and encouragement to them for you.

  5. brandi

    With tears falling down my cheeks and having come off a 3 day stretch, I had do be this person 2 days in a row. I am emotional and physically drained. I was every bit the person you described this weekend. Thank you for reminding me that I am appreciated.

  6. Lester R Brewer

    I have been in the hospital a few times in the last years. I have learned the nurses names and a bit about their families. They have become my family. I respect them for the great job they are called to do. They get close to their patients too. They love just like you and me. Let’ s give them the love and respect they are due. LOVE A NURSE. They hold your hand with your last breath. Sometimes they are the only link between life and death.

  7. Carol Herring

    What a wonderful and potent description of our ladies (and gentlemen) in white. I have many friends that are nurses, and I consider myself lucky to know them personally. They are indeed, all that and so much more. May God Bless all nurses everywhere.

  8. Walta Lynn Parker

    Thank you for sharing this. I started caring for people around age 10. My beloived Aunt LaLa was dying and I was too young to understand. When she left us my soul was crushed. Since that day in 1967 I have loved and cared for many. It’s never easy but it is a blessing to know and love these people. I later went to nursing school but didn’t finish. I honor and respect the profession. Thank you Nurses for persevering. Sincerely, Lynn

  9. Regina

    Awesome article. I have been an office nurse in the same office for 20 years. My patients have become my family. Some of the children I immunized as an infant now have families of their own. As far as the older patients or patients that have become terminally ill, I am part of their journey along with family members. A phone call, a kind word, or sometimes no words and just a hug is needed. That applies to the patient, the family and myself. As Nurses we have feelings that we must hide more often than not, however, that does not mean we are not caring and compassionate.

  10. Jodi

    My parent s had the BEST hospice nurses. I. am forever grateful for the care they gave to me and to my mom and step dad.

  11. Teresa Gamage

    I have been a nure for over 30 years,I took care of my patients as if they was my flesh and blood,sometimes we was all they had,we becamelike family, particularly in the long care facilities,to every nurse out there,take care of yourselves too,nurses are very special people,as a patient myself less than a year ago it shed alot of light on how much nurses do to help their patients,and listen to your patients,that is another thing I have learned.

  12. Glenna Cozort

    I would like to say there is no one more special than the hospice nurses and aides, I spent almost a month there with my aunt Pud who was 90 and passing over, They are truly special and I love you C.J. I will never forget your kindness!!!!

  13. Lena Irick

    I have always believed Nurses are more important than Doctors. Nurses see, hear and instinctively know their patients needs because they give their time, bond and that gives them insight to what’s really important in being a caregiver. Of course, Nurses can’t cry with every death, if they did then it would be all the time. Their strength is usually what keeps the family from totally falling apart. I have seen the best and a few that really should have chosen another profession but over all I would prefer a Nurse being in charge of my care. Thanks for all give. <3

  14. Ruthie

    My experience was nurse to nurse…My father was told he had cancer the middle of Sept. and was gone the middle of Dec. He was in Fla. and I was in VT. Hospice was brought in and getting started with their plan of care. I told my mother and siblings I would be right down there to take care of my Dad. I had never worked with Hospice and was sure I could make them understand how to take care of my Dad. I had my list of questions and what I wanted done for our first meeting after all I was a nursing home nurse and I knew how to take care of people. That super wonderful compassionate nurse had us sit down on the couch facing each other, she took my hands in hers and softly said, I’m going to ask you to do something very hard… I want you to take your nurses cap off and just be a wonderful loving daughter. This is your time to be Daddy’s girl, not a nurse. I’m the nurse here and I promise you, I/we will give your Dad the best possible care and help him make this journey with grace and dignity. I have never forgotten her taking the time to take care of me as well. I know we thanked her when she stopped by after my Dad passed on but I sure wish I could tell her how much of an impact she made on my nursing career.

    1. kanne

      Ruthie,

      It’s never too late to send a letter, to the facility if not to the nurse directly, and ask for it to be forwarded to the nurse. I know that my family has a handful of nurses who would appreciate the gesture and it can turn an unbearable day into a manageable one.

    2. Lori

      Hi Ruthie,
      It is very hard as a nurse to step out of that nurse role when a family member is ill. My Dad got very sick while on vacation in Florida. I was put in the nurse role by the rest of my family because they didn’t understand what was going on. He passed away in Florida with us all at his side. I was the one who had to give him permission to pass away and I was never able to grieve the way I should have. I wish I had had a nurse take me aside and tell me to just be the daughter.

      Lori

    3. Diane

      Ruthie, please write that letter. as a nurse I have recently received a letter from one of my family’s and it is treasured beyond words. I also started receiving cards from another family several years after their loved one passed away. These help remind us why we are nurses

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  16. Mary whitacre

    I am also a hospice nurse, a pediatric hospice nurse. I need to be strong and supportive to help families walk the hardest path ever, but don’t for one minute think I don’t cry. I cry with the family, in my car, when I come home and my husband say”so how was your day?” It is a privilege and an honor to be invited into this most sacred and intimate time in a family’s life I always take more away from each death than I give. I watch courage and grace when people don’t know they have it in them, I also am saddened by the times when people are unable or unwilling to put conflict aside to make peace and to have”a good death”

    1. Carrie

      I also have worked at Hospice for just about two years and I completely understand what you are saying. I love my patients and I do cry alongside the family many times, but I totally agree with you about the conflict. I hate to see people fighting at the bedside while their loved one is still alive. I always make it a point to say that hearing is the last to go and ask if they would step outside to have their discussion!! It is an honour to be part of their final journey and I will continue to work Palliative and Hospice for many more years!!

  17. Donna Terry

    I am one of the patients family and let me assure you I know you love and care for my family member. You’ve become one of the family. Thank you for your love and care. Hopefully some day I can repay you in some small way for all you do.

  18. Stephani

    I have been a nurse for 39 years. I mostly did OB which is usually happy, but it is the sad times that stand out. Not that I didn’t personally celebrate the miracle of a living birth with my Heavenly Father. I did. I thanked Him each and every time. The sad ones, I cried, adults and babies alike. Every time you lose a baby or a mom, or adults on other floors when I did spend time there, it took a chink out of my heart and a long time for that little tear to heal.Even delivering 100 healthy ones before another loss wasn’t enough and I still have little scars where all those chinks were. I may not have openly sobbed, but I grieved. I still think about the families of those lost ones and wonder if they healed ok and were able to move on, despite the fact you never get completely over it. I am talking events back to my first loss 38 years ago. Nurses, good ones anyway, feel the compassion and grieve just like families do, just more privately

  19. Melody Blinkmann

    I lost a loved one this last year at the VA hospital in Nashville. He had hopes of a transplant but just got too sick. Every one of the nurses, doctors etc. were blessings to him and our family. I couldn’t have gotten through this without theor kindness, concern, and love. I want to say on behalf of all distraught family members that we are sorry. We have no idea what we have asked you to do on our behalf and how hard it is to say your goodbyes too. We are so often unsure of how to handle ourselves and ask that you forgive us when we try to bargain, plead for more time and such. You know so much more than we do about these things. Please don’t take our anger personally. It is born out of fear, not being ready, and not understanding the process. Many of us can become unreasonable during this time and we appreciate your patience with us. Thank you for all you do! Thank you for sacrificing so much of yourselves to help take care of our loved ones! My daughter is a nurse and a special person in my life!

  20. Ruth

    Nurse’s Wish
    By Ruth Ann Beaudry

    Dying is a process that can be slow and long,
    some can be comforted by just a song.
    Prolonging the process is not what’s best,
    when all they want is to just rest.
    I watch this process day after day,
    let me tell you there’s not enough pay.
    If there was one wish an angel could keep,
    please let them all just fall asleep.

  21. Amanda Finley

    “Nurse’s Wish” describes what I want to say to my patient’s families so often. I struggle with finding the right words when approaching the topic of End of Life, hospice and Comfort Care with loved ones. They do often put me in the “bad guy” catagory, but I know when they are looking at me and listening to my words about how much pain keeping a patient alive can cause, they are seeing death and pain and grief. I do not take it personally. I’m a symbol of giving up to them, until they accept the fate of the patient, if they do. However, I find time to hold my patients hand and stroke his or her forehead, and quietly think about the life they have lived, and respect them for it. I also think about my mother, father, and brother who I lost and remember how it feels. I try to take off my nurses cap on my way home so I can sleep before I return for my next 12 hour shift, and hope for a better day tomorrow.

  22. Rhea C Mccorkle

    I spent 29 years working with Nurses….and to my way of thinking…it always takes a special type individual to make a nurse! I never seen a nurse I didn’t like…they all have the same mentality…to be there for their patient and deliver the best care
    I believe these kind of individuals are heaven sent….and deserve all the respect in the world. My life has been full ….having worked alongside these people…assisting them in any way possible…I was there for them ….just as they were there for their patient!

  23. Janet

    Perhaps I have lived a little vicariously through my precious daughter since she entered nursing school in 1975. I can not recall how many of her patients, or their families, have sung her praises. She is a wonderful nurse,instructor, daughter, sister,wife,mother,nana. She has always been here when we needed her. Now she can retire?? At a young age to enjoy the rewards of her labors. The nursing profession will have a loss, but knowing Deb, she will continue to serve in her gentle, kind , compassionate way, may God Bless your retirement. Sing on for many years to come. You have the love of so many!!

  24. Virginia Walker

    Nursing is a wonderful profession. There are many joys and many sorrows. It is an emotional roller coaster that we learn to navigate with poise and determination keeping our patients and their families in the centre of our focus. I have been a nurse for almost 30 years and would not change one thing.

  25. Lynn

    I’ve been warned that I get too close to my patients How do you get too close to another Child of God?? I will change to the cold standards of others unless I have some sort of brain injury Seriously.

  26. Patty

    I am not a nurse but I am a critical care tech in the Critical Care unit and have been for 15 years. This article was nicely done. There have been times when patients do not have family, I am the one that will sit with them hold there hand and let them know that it is ok. I do not like to see patients die alone. It really gets to me and then when I drive home. The tears flow. Even when they have family and the curtains are closed for cares, I’am the one who will rub there forehead, hold there hand and comb there hair, shave his face etc so that they will look the best that they can for there family.

  27. Nichelle

    Wow ! Thank you ! For expression exactly how we nurses feel! It’s not easy bring a nurse emotionally again thank you

  28. Richard B Decker Jr

    I write this with a tear in my eye, I am not an RN but my wife is, 32 years and still going strong, she is the most caring, loving person that I have ever had the pleasure to meet, I have listened to her many a day after a very long 12 hour shift dealing with the subject mentioned above, of course names are never mentioned, they don’t have to be, the many stories of families, some good, some not so good, I don’t know how she does it day after day, she is a very special person. Whom ever she is taking care of that day, that person or person’s are what is most important, with all of the missed lunches, dinners, breaks, missed “potty” breaks it just doesn’t matter, the most important person is the person she is taking care of that day, that shift. Who ever is lucky enough to have her as their nurse is a very lucky person, thank you to all of the nurses out there that give as my wife does day after day.

  29. David

    I was a Palliative Medicine Chaplain for seven years. Your thoughts were profound and beautifully stated. We chaplains experienced many of the same accusations, barbs as well as profoundly holy moments. Often with families I would sing and/or pray someone into their new life.
    It was all a privilege I shall never forget. And I shall never forget the nurses with whom I was. fortunate enough to minister.
    ..

  30. Brian sharps

    As the husband of a hospice nurse and the recipient of their generous care when my mother passed away this June, I can relate to this story on both sides. I see my wife cry and become upset when a family member doesn’t understand the process of death. I see my wife become close to a patient only to help them into the next life. The level of care my mother received was as compassionate as any I had ever witnessed, all nurses rock!!! But hospice nurses are special angels in my opinion.

  31. Linda Rolett Roberson

    This was spot on, The nurses at my Hospice unit are caring and compassionate, The cnas that do most of the turning and bathing always treat are patients with care and respect. The sad occasion of a patient without family gets extra attention, No one should be alone at the last hour of this life.

  32. Marge

    Having recently retired after 30 years of Hospice nursing, I find much to think about in all this. I have rarely felt unappreciated or wished I was more appreciated when walking with my patients and their families. Yes, I have shed tears, laughed, hugged and listened a lot over the years. I love and cherish the experiences and the people I have met and worked with…… and the wonderful stories and memories. Yes, I’ve been tired and frustrated sometimes, but granting myself a good cry or a day off or a special treat means I’m taking care of me so that I could be the nurse the next patient and family needed on that day. And saying my ‘good byes’ behind the curtain or the closed door is part of it too.

  33. Jeanne Russell

    Being a hospice nurse: it means that you are lucky to work with awesome people, doctors who count on you to wake them in the middle of the night because someone needs their help in getting more comfortable, nurses right arms ( nurses assistants) who make time in their busy nights to give a helping hand or a shoulder to lean on when it’s an emotionally rough night, fellow nurses who support and share their knowledge to help find creative ways to solve problems that come up at 2 A. M. Volunteers who make cookies at night and bring a smile to pAtients, family and staff. Then there are the chaplains and social workers who show up in the middle of the night to help staff, patients and family in crisis. Then there are the dieticians, housekeepers and music therapists who make everything look and smell better, provide food for the soul and for the midnight patient snack attacks and don’t always get enough HUGS of thanks. It also means that when a nurse is saying good bye to Patients and family members she is receiving that special hug for a whole team of caring people who couldn’t be there to give even more HUGS as we say goodbye to grieving families. When we get to share a little time with you and your loved ones, we share your precious memories, both good and bad. Thank you for that gift and I thank those special people who over the years have shared their HUGS and thanks with me. You have enriched my life.

  34. ajaynie14

    I am not a nurse myself. But my mother is and has been for almost 30 years. I have seen her cry over the loss of the ones she has cared for. She is a Hospice nurse now and I could never do what she does. My sister is a CNA in a nursing home. I know she cares for the ones there just the same. My other sister is also a nurse. I’ve seen her bring her thoughts of her patients home often. I may not be a nurse but I respect and appreciate every one of them working out there.

    1. Ruby Weiss

      I have to say as a nurse myself it takes someone special to be a good nurse and even more special to be a hospice nurse. Years ago before I became a nurse my mother inlaw passed away from cancer and the hospice nurses made a very difficult time a lot easier for us. They are definitely angles that walk among us.

  35. Jon

    Scrubs S2E06

    “Dr. Cox: You see Dr. Wen in there? He’s explaining to that family that something went wrong and that the patient died. He’s gonna tell them what happened, he’s gonna say he’s sorry, and then he’s going back to work. You think anybody else in that room is going back to work today?
    That is why we distance ourselves, that’s why we make jokes. We don’t do it because it’s fun — we do it so we can get by…and sometimes because it’s fun. But mostly it’s the getting by thing.”

    Scrubs S2E05

    “J.D.: Anosmia isn’t a side-effect of I.V. Imipenem. Plus, Mr. Blair had multiple nasal polypectomies, and septoplasty; and his loss of smell is most likely caused by repeated manipulation of the sinuses along with concurrent infection. So, I didn’t make a mistake; and you were wrong when you said, “Nice goin’, Newbie.”
    Dr. Cox: Here you’ve put me in a tough situation: I can’t honestly decide whether to say, “Duh,” uh, “Doy,” or a very sarcastic, “Oh, really?” My God, Fiona, I know it wasn’t your fault; hell, the patient probably knows! But he seemed a little distraught, like maybe being able to blame somebody for a second or two just might make him feel a little better? And, I know, maybe it’s me, but doesn’t that seem like something that goes right along with wearing that fancy white coat? It…does, doesn’t it.”

    Working in higher education, specifically with doctors and nurses has really helped to put a face to those providing health care. It frustrates me when I hear others complain till they’re blue-in-the-face that their nurse/doctor doesn’t care about them..

    I know the situations above are made up and told rather humorously, but it helped to paint a picture of people who care and work hard and sometimes (maybe more often than not) things turn out very poorly. Grief and sadness hurt and oftentimes they hurt people who you don’t even realize. There are episodes later on relating to giving a patient “good news” and how nice it feels to come up with the creative solution or bring happiness into a patients life.

  36. Barb

    That is really comforting to know you Nurses rock but now your Rocking ! Thanks for giving love and support at the worst times and the short happy times

  37. Yvonne Crownover

    You Nailed it. Many families never know (or care) how hard we work or how much we care or how much it hurts when a patient dies, is dying or the family is hateful to us. We are there BECAUSE WE CARE. It is not a glamorous job, it is a hard job, it is not just a job… it is a calling for many of us. We want to do the best for the patient. We want to do the the best for the family. Being a nurse is a physically, psychologically, emotionally draining job, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I am a nurse and will always be a nurse… even when I am no longer able to work. May God bless every nurse, doctor, tech, caregiver, allied health provider and anyone else who cares for people when they are not at their best because they care about them.

  38. Hearstine Ewing

    Brought tears to my eyes So true It’s so hard to leave out feeling of out patient at work. Thank God for Nurses everywhere n for our patient families that entrust their care to us. It’s never easy to tell a family member that their love one is gone

  39. Sybil jones

    Moms hospice nurses where with us when she passed. Weeks later I saw her car in town and walked to the store where she was just to hug her & let her know how much I appreciated her. Mom was grumpy at times, as she didn’t like to hear the reality of her disease. But she was never not taken care of nor, not loved by her nurses. May God bless every nurse for doing a thankless job.

  40. Noreen H

    I am a PSW that worked in LTC and in Alzheimer Respite, too many times I have had to say goodbye and many more times I will do it again, I have to leave that client or resident and go to the next room and give care to another within minutes of losing someone I cared for. The distance they say we need to put between us and the resident or client is really not there. I wait for my break, I say a prayer and Godspeed to the soul of the deceased and then continue on. I then go home eat ,go to bed and think of the person and hope that the time spent with them was quality and I provided the for the emotional ,physical and spiritual needs of that person when they needed it most. I stay when they are afraid and don’t want to die alone, I pray with them to whatever God they believe in and I hold their hand until the end ,wiping their brow and sing to them softly into the light. I treat them with dignity before and after death and it is this that that lets me get up in the morning and start all over again.
    Nurses ,PSW’s and caretakers, my hat off to you because it would be a lonely,
    scary life and death out there without you.

    1. Pam Brandon

      This so says it all we care a heavy burden and never show it o have been a nurse for 18 year and it has not became any easier when a patient is lost

  41. Carole Noble, RN

    This is beautifully done and tells it like it is. Thank you. In spite of the heartache, the long hours the hard work, and sometimes the hopeless helpless feelings, there is not anything I would rather have done with my life than to be a Registered Nurse. Thank you God for the many opportunities You have given me to Minister to the sick, the injured, the dying and to the grieving. I love being a Nurse.

  42. Pat langston

    I have to say my husband and I were one of the lucky ones. Even tho he had stage 4 cancer, They pulled him through. We can never thank those angels, both men and women enough for what they did. That was 9 years ago and we are still in touch with them. They are wonderful. We love them.

  43. Mary Halstead

    This truly sums it up. Praying them to peace & new life is a privilege that nurses get along with being there for our patients & their families.

  44. Cathie

    I am not a nurse. It skipped me. But I remember the connection my mom had with her patients. Some see her picture and remember her still today. My daughter is a nurse and when she was in our fair town ,She was often the one to be t here . I was hard emotionally. When you get so close to a patient. And your Christian heart pours out. Most family members see it in that nurse. (at least here.) I will praise a good Christian nurse every time. Though some DO NOT have the thought of the family in mind starting out, they usually see. the pain and I have never seen a nurse that does not feel the family’s pain. You really are good. God bless you.

  45. jgnewman

    My mother died a few months ago – a couple of weeks following her 100th birthday. She’d been in a care facility about 4 years. If we, as family members are honest with ourselves, the care facility staff is doing a job that we, for whatever reason, are unable to do. I can’t imagine being unkind to the lovely people who cared for my mother, nor can I imagine wishing her to stay in that existence any longer than necessary. People just aren’t real logical as they greave. What would they want their loved one to live longer to do? Why do they feel it’s okay to demean their loved one’s care giver? Sadly, at the time of loss, we don’t always think rationally. Who among us would bring a loved one back to suffer longer?

  46. Sue

    This was a wonderful article, really hit home for me .I recently retired after 42 years of nursing. I also recently lost my husband after a double lung transplant with several complications. His nurses in ICU had to give myself and my daughters continuous bad news , there was never an improvement. We were so fortunate to have such a wonderful, caring group of nurses helping my husband. I will never forget the male nurse Shane that was with us when he passed.Our family was blessed to have the compassion he showed to my husband and our family. These people were truly angels that we will never forget. My husband was in ICU for 62 days and he received wonderful care, so did we!

  47. Christine White

    Being a nurse is the most heart breaking job there is you don’t know if the people that you care for one day will still be alive the next day

  48. Sherry

    Can identify with this story so well… It makes the pain in my heart come back thinking of my whole family I have lost when I lose a patient . After 43 years nursing it never gets easier!

  49. suzanne Hamilton

    That was heart felt spare a thought for our nurses they do an amazing job in not the easiest of situations. It’s so true when we care for someone in their dying moments that it can trigger our own feelings of loss for our loved ones. We may also search for what we could have done differently but being you is the best way.

  50. Gretchen Mross

    THANK YOU TO ALL OF THE NURSES DOING THEIR JOBS & then going above and beyond what is asked of them. Many times you are the glue that holds a family together. Your kind words to the family and the loved one means more than words can say. Go home with your head held high knowing YOU made a difference!!

  51. sue

    Nothing can aptly describe our thanks for the care given with the most love to Mac especially on 10/31/01 and 11/27/02.. Gods plans are so much more than we can ever know & He truly uses “all things for the good”.. Thank you God for 10 magicL yrs w/ Mac!

  52. Linda Hladun

    My beautiful grandson, who earned his angel wings at the age of 6 months, lived at our local children’s hospital for the last four months of his life. I witnessed, first hand, how they cared not only for him but for our whole family. We had nurses who came in on their day off to check up on all of us. His nurses became friends – became family. They laughed and cried with us and even now, after 5 years, they have remained in our lives.

  53. Katrina G

    To all those nurses who have been there for me and my family, Thank You! I have had nurses at very happy times of my life – when babies are born and a very sad time of my life – when I lost a baby. I was so thankful for all the nurses that were there to support and help me, even to laugh when I attempted to make them smile. I hate being just a number…and I am so thankful to the nurses that make me feel like more than that.

  54. Gerald Hallman

    When I was working in the different units as a staff nurse and as a paramedic, I would do that what could I have noted or done differently when ever there was a death. When I worked Hospice and I was able to provide the comfort and support a dying person needed and offer comfort to the family and patient. I became more at peace with my actions and recognized that bond with someone dying that means they will live on in my memory at peace.

  55. Adrienne

    Thanks for this. I’m not a nurse, but my kids and I have been in hospital. The nurses are often the difference between life and death. Nursing is a profession and an art and I am profoundly grateful to all the nurses that have tended to me and my family.

  56. Hollie Eagleeye

    Getting a job at the #1, Level 1 Trauma Emergency Room at the Hospital I’ve worked for for 15 years was a proud moment . The Serouusnees of the responsibility didn’t take long to kick in. Hearing your name Called to a Trauma coming in carries a Heavy weight. You hope that the outcome is survivable for the patients, there families and for yourself. It takes a moment of Silence after a patient dies for your addrineline levels to settle and then your back to work Non stop as you finish your 12 hour shift. Its a Tough job to be exposed to the Agonies of Death over and over again.Chronic Stress is the problem and Quitting is the Only solution. No Nurse should be blamed for someone else’s Bad News but instead, Thanked for our Wlingness to Care for our patients and thier families in the most difficult times in their Lives.

  57. Carolan Goodman

    Having been a Hospice nurse helped me with my 9 yrs of Critical Care Work. I’ve cried with the patient, family and while driving home, in the shower and on my pillow! Still … God called me to be the Best nurse I can be for HIM!
    I still wouldn’t trade it for the world!

  58. Vincette Hubbard

    I also am a nurse who experience the good and the bad from patients loved one this was wellspoken and from the heart —my feelings many times

  59. Kath Beal

    I have the greatest respect for the nursing profession indeed the whole health profession. I have worked in the care profession for many years. Fortunately where I have worked I have seen nothing but the upmost care and respect for those losing their life and their loved ones. Unfortunately I have seen the other side when I lost my husband, the level of care was disgusting compassion non existent. Im sorry but those nurses let the heroes down

  60. Tammy Stone

    I just want to say thank you to all the nurses out there . you are very special people and have hearts of gold I know I would not of made it through chemo or been able to continue with all the after care without someone holding my hand and joking around with me when the pain was so unbearable I wanted to give up.The nurses are the ones who kept me spirits alive and I thank and love you guys for doing for me what I could not do for myself and that is have hope and a will to go on.I couldn’t of made it without you.

  61. Tracey Brooks

    My husband sadly passed 2 yrs ago I cared for him at home from start to finish with the most incredible help from such loving and caring district nurses from our doctors practise and a loving and caring mcmillian nurse without these amazing nurses I dont know how i would if coped so Thank you so much to these amazing nurses who do this job my district nurses came from the Vallance centre in Ardwick green Manchester , the Mcmillian nurse was Central manchester xx

  62. Brenda K DeLeon

    It’s amazing how it may seem to the families of the terminally ill that we don’t care because we do our best to not cry in front of them. Truth is, we do carry the ill and their families in our hearts and on our minds even off the clock….. for whatever reason, it just feels wrong not being the strong one for everyone else!

  63. Kelly

    Wonderfully worded and so very true. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for doing what you do! Just yesterday I held the hand of a beautiful lady while she took her last breath. As difficult as it is, I am very thankful to be able to provide comfort and reassurance in someone’s final moments.

  64. Dawn

    I am an Emergency Department RN at a Level I trauma center. I have only been a nurse for 3 years as this is a second career for me and I graduated nursing school at the age of 45. I absolutely love my job and couldn’t imagine doing anything else. I agree with the comments about how we sometimes have to hold in our feelings and our tears. I love helping people and it is wonderful when we can help people get better and save a life. It is hard though when we are the bearer of bad news and we lose patients. I hate to say we become immune to the bad stuff but we kind of do and have to so we can continue to care for our other patients. Even though we may not shed tears in front of patients and their families, it doesn’t mean that we don’t go home after our shift and cry. I have done that many times. Although there are many sad times, the good outcomes and lives saved make it worth while to me. I wouldn’t change my career for the world. :)

  65. AtticAmbead

    My mom is a nurse and I see her go through this all the time. She loves he patients and it absolutely kills her when they reach the end. She cries and even attends funerals. Nurses care for their patients. They are with them every day and talk to them. They have no choice but to put on a brave face at work, but they do this job because they are stronger and have huge hearts. They deserve appreciation daily.

  66. Norma Proutt

    As the daughter of a terminally ill patient in our local hospital I can attest to the loving care given my mom on her last days. Most of her nurses were very accommodating with our questions and concerns regarding her care and what we could do to help. At this point we were encouraged to help her live her life to her fullest. We were encouraged to take her out even for a short walk or ride and to bring her home for Christmas. Our last few months together were bittersweet yet so loving. Thanks to her nurses she had family with her at the end and her nurses were not only caring for her they cared for those of us there at the end. I have friends and loved ones who are nurses and caregivers they do a very special job that not all of us can do. Good nurses like good doctors can make a difference in many lives. Keep on doing the good work for you are truly heroes.

  67. Esther K

    Thank you for writing such beautiful article. You basically covered all the happy and bad times in my nursing career. But you are right, a simple thank you and/or a thank you card always brighten up our days.

  68. Liane Smith

    Having been a Hospice Nurse myself, how beautifully said. I have cried also at my patients passing. I give my patients the same tender loving care, as I have my own family.

  69. Sue Howard

    I am an oncology nurse. I just lost 2 men who I cared about so much. Today one of them was supposed to come in for his treatment. When I go by his usual seat today, I will be thinking of him. If I didn’t have this job I would have never had the pleasure of meeting those wonderful men.

  70. anne keddie

    I am a retired nurse, and was very touched by what is written. I can remember being there when a patient loses that battle and have cried (in private) for patients and families. I don’t think you ever forget

  71. Maisie G.

    I too am a nurse and this so describes my life.
    these truly the moments that are the most difficult but also the most rewarding.
    Being by the side otr a patient at the end of his/her life and knowing we helped to make the passage smoothly and with dignity is for me a great honour.

  72. Amy

    I have been a CNA for almost a year now and I’ve already had to let go of a few residents. One of which I really cared for. I didn’t get to know her for as long as others have, but I told her it was okay to go. I went outside and cried, though. Sometimes, I just have to cry. I’ve had a few residents say they wish they would die, and I always tell them I won’t let them.

    I hope my journey in hopefully becoming a nurse will enlighten me to this road. It’s never easy for family. It’s especially not easy for the nurse or CNA who cares for them for most of the days they see them.

  73. Melinda Michiels

    I’ve been on the patient end many times and I always try to treat my nurses with all the respect that they deserve. I honestly think it is such a huge responsibly while also getting emotionally involved. I know for a fact I would not be here today if it weren’t for all the great cares of so many nurses. So, Thank you all for doing what you do!!!

  74. Tina Parker

    As a daughter whose mom died in hospital I would like to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. Without you my family and I would have been totally useless. My mom passed with dignity and in peace. We had the opportunity to say our good byes and were there when she passed due to the care given not just to mum but to our family by nurses who have too many patients and are stretched too thinly yet do a fantastic and at times thankless job. so thank you. The Parker Familyx

  75. tracy

    im not a nurse but a health care support worker ,,we do as much as a nurse we wash , dress , cheer patients up , and we are the ones who usually do the last wash they will ever have with care . still talking to them as if they are still with us

  76. Helen

    Oh so true. I have dedicated 38 years to nursing ncould not have chosen a more rewarding job. It has been a priviledge to care for all “my patie ts” over those years.

  77. Carol Eardley

    Nurses are angels in disguise. The wonderful nurses and staff at Bury hospice who cared for my uncle in his final days were incredibly caring and will always be remembered x

  78. Kathleen Mary Langan

    Thank you for this article. My nurse’s heart bleeds the suffering of my patients and their loved ones. I knew I was sure I wasn’t the only nurse to feel this way.

  79. Ellen cole

    I was able to be with my dad in St Andrews hospice, in Ardrie until he passed away, and because of the care not only my dad received but me too, from the staff. I started to work as a health care assistant, and then went to uni and am now an assosiate practioner, and am able to now look after patients the way my father was looked after, I will never be able to really tell the staff of the hospice, what they did for my whole family, but want to thank each and everyone of them for everything they did to let my dad die with dignity and surrounded with his family. Xxxx

  80. theresa

    My respect and heartfelt gratitude fir nurses is beyond measure. ..when my sister was passing away in hospice the nurses were there to help my sister through every moment and comforted her and my family in ways not just any person can do…nurses are special loving people the world and peoples lives are infinitely better…the memory brings a tear to my eye…God bless nurses and may these angels always keep watch

  81. Patricia

    I’m 46 years old and works in healthcare for 15. I’ve worked in a nursing home setting for 8 yrs as a CCA. I’ve sat with dying residents and held their hand. Sat with their families, brought in coffee and donuts and just gave my support even on my days off. These residents are not just residents of the nursing home, they are our family too! We are with your family 24/7 and it affects us when we lose them too. I loved my job as emotional as it can be!

  82. deb

    Beautifully written and so, so true. After 32 yrs I still marvel at how we manage to make it through a 12 hour shift let alone come back and do it all over again. God bless us ♡

  83. bridgit fraser

    My brother had some of the best nurses and doctors looking after him, I could not thank them enough they went over and above what u would expect tried everything they could do to make him better. He had cf and we spent a lot of time at hospitals we were grateful to each and everyone at all of them and so was he. The only thing he used to ask specifically for was experienced nurses to take his blood as his veins were bad. He was treated with kindness and dignity at all times we were supported reminded to go eat and sleep.they kept us informed every step of the way and helped us make the decision to turn the machines off. I realised at the time how much you all cared when doctors and nurses cried too, he’d been in the unit where you have 2 nurses per patient 24/7 and he was in 6 months they’d become friends to us all through a terrible time. I will never forget everything that they did for us and my brother. So a big thank you to you all for the amazing job you all do. My family appreciate you all xxx

  84. patriciaday

    I was a Hospice nurse for 19 years. Families asked me many personal questions and made many observations over the years. The one statement that took me back was, “You must be very cold and calloused to do this everyday.” After I gained composure, I reassured the family member that I never felt anything but love and compassion for my patients. I knew I couldn’t stop the cancer or perform a miracle for them, but I could do my job while I was in their home. If during that one hour or more I answered a question that calmed a worry, made the patient more comfortable with my gentle touch, supported the caregiver who was dog-dead tired – then I had done my job. That didn’t make me cold or calloused but a caring, compassionate nurse who knew my limits and gave my patient and family 100% of all I had to give. There were tears and a new understanding of what nursing is all about. It’s about unconditional positive regard for your patient and every effort to give them all of yourself for the time they are in your care…and you move on to the next patient and start all over again.

  85. Sandy Vernace

    There is one nurse I will never forget. His name is Tim. He took care of my fiance (Vinny) every day he was on shift. (for nearly 3 months.) He learned what Vinny liked, didn’t like, could tolerate, what he couldn’t. However most of all he learned Vinny’s sense of humor. They would tease back and forth constantly. Vinny loved humor above all else. When it was time to leave this earth he was there with Vinny and I. I will never forget Tim Sociwitz. After Vinny passed he even gave me his number in case I needed him. It’s been almost seven years now, but Tim will be forever in my heart. He is truly an angel among us.

  86. holly

    my mother is a nurse and has been for my entire life, hospice, cancer wards, all i saw growing up was my mothers pain when her patients died . she cried herself to sleep night after night, woke bleary eyed and filled with hope that today would be better for this patient or that, only to come home night after night , broken. So much so, it made me NOT want to be a nurse because i couldnt feel MY heart break the way i saw hers break everyday over the loss of her patients. A hospice nurse in the height of the aids scare and terminal patient after terminal patient. YOUR JOB IS HELL. and yet you all get up EVERYDAY and go to help sick people and protect us and wipe our foreheads and comfort us at your own personal expense, and if anyone on EARTH deserves to be given a break or treated with respect, it is a nurse! Im proud my mom is who she is. it takes a VERY strong person to do what you all do and my hat is off to you.

  87. Lora Pharis

    Don’t forget the therapists who work with these patients. We go through these same things with our patients. We work with these patients 5 days a week sometimes for 2 hours a day for weeks or even months. During that time, we get to know that patient as a friend. We learn about their lives, their families, their fears, their regrets, and their proudest moments. These people become our little family for their time with us. When we lose one of these brave souls after working so hard to make them better, it hurts us to our core. We feel like we let that patient down in some way even when there was nothing to be done by us. I remember my successes, but I also remember some of the awesome people that I have lost and still remember 30 years later!

  88. Jan

    I have had the privilege to be part of many families lives throughout my 23 years of nursing. You couldn’t have captured it better. Thank you for sharing this with everyone.

  89. Arlene MacIsaac

    Most powerful moments of my life, surrounding a dying child with singing, music, prayer, tears, laghtor , hugs & love

  90. Janet Bowers, RN, MSN

    Stated very well. While reading, I reflected back on my nursing career and still today I remember many of my patients, who have passed away. Especially those who touched my life with words of faith, encouragement, a kindred spirit. I know longer work as a nurse, but I will always have that nurturing spirit and sense of compassion for another individual.
    God bless all nurses

  91. Don Leong

    My wife is a retired ICU nurse who had her share of patients who were “called home”. What gave her the courage to keep going was there was always a miracle case who came back from the brink and walked out the door.

  92. Arlene Gegner

    I am not in the medical profession but several years ago I lost my oldest sister to cancer.
    This was a new experience for me and very depressing not knowing how to
    handle and accept what was happening. She first was given 6 months and with in
    hours it was 24 hours as she had a DNR . We sat with her holding our breath when she didn’t breathe and letting out when she did. The nurses were wonderful knowing she didn’t have much time but they rolled her over and rubbed lotion on her back the whole time telling her
    how good she was doing. Very comforting for us as it showed that they really cared and loved their job even tho it was difficult they never gave up and they gave the family so much care and concern on how we were doing. So hats off to all medical personal.

    From Canada

  93. Ana

    As a Hospice nurse, I feel this completely. There are so many families I haven’t been able to say goodbye to. Our patients don’t realize that they become a part of our lives, part of our family. I see them more often than I do some of my real family. And try as we might not to, you get attached to these people. And you grieve when you lose them too. And while I go in knowing my patients are going to pass and my goal of being there is to make sure it is done with dignity and painlessly, I never take away their hope. So it is emotionally painful to me to have families say all I do is discuss them dying or tell them they are going to die. I won’t lie to a patient who asks me for honesty, but to a family, my job is to prepare you as well. Even when I wish I had a magic wand to wave and make all of it go away. I will miss your mom/dad/aunt/uncle/brother/sister/cousin/friend too. Just as I will miss you. Even with your hatred.

  94. Jessica Reams-Losee

    I’m a nurse in a primary care setting, you get to know the patients and their familis and become a part of their lives. I’m leaving primary care to work on an inpatient floor, saying goodbye to the relationships I’ve formed is difficult. It’s a form of grieving.

  95. MayR

    This is beautiful!!! It shows the true essence of our nursing profession…. My motto has always been Listen to our patient’s needs, Treat them with respect and never give up hope….. It is hard when a patient is dying.. But I agree that false hopes is not good as well… But giving some true hope is still essential for our patients who are fighting for their illness…
    May R, NP, Boca Raton, Fl

  96. SUSAN

    We need to appreciate all the beautiful people that do care for us through the years–the end of our lives is harder I think, but it is so hard to say good bye to any one that you love and care about! Thanks for sharing this with us–it is really something to think about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  97. Amy Hardeman

    Beautifully written. I recently lost my mother to renal failure, she was 83 years old. She didn’t want to do dialysis because my father had passed away fifteen months earlier and she had missed him so, she was just ready to go. When the throwing up first started we took her to the hospital and I must say the nurses on that floor were so good to my mother and the whole family. I even brought donuts for both shifts because they had been so good to us and it made mother smile. When we were able to take her home we had hospice setup and they too were wonderful. Yes it’s tough on them when they have to tell you your love one is dying. The hospice nurse we had even referred to herself as the bad nurse that night. I put my arms around her and said, “No you are not bad at all.” And we cried together. After mother passed away the nurses from the hospital sent mother a card and so did the hospice nurse. The hospice counselor even came to mother’s viewing.
    So thank you, to all nurses, for the work you do. I know it’s not an easy job and you often don’t get thanked enough or at all, but I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart!

    Amy

  98. Steph

    I am not a nurse I’m an RRT, I still remember being a newbie maybe a month on the job and we had a patient that knew she was dying. she was absolutely terrified of dying alone. I work at a small hospital and everyone working that night took turns sitting with her so she would not be alone. she was right she did pass that night and I was the one that was with her when it happened. It may have been the first time in my career that I have sat with someone while they passed but certainly not the last. there is a peace in knowing you have made someones transition easier for them but it breaks my heart everytime. crying when someone looks at you funny for a few days does not look good

  99. Keelie Rossi

    Could have not said it better,as a hospice nurse for 8 years,the “goodbyes” are never easy but when the “goodbye” is with peace& comfort,it makes my heart smile!!!

  100. Live

    It is more the nursing assistants who do this I know because I have been there when I had to tell someone I am sorry for there loss or hold the hand of that dieing person and let them no it’s ok to go I am here and will be with them till the end there r very caring nurses out there who do try to do this but they don’t just have that one patient they are busy pushing meds and charting that’s why god sends in his angels the NA to comfort the person and family!

    1. Kerianne Dunlap

      It is a team effort for sure….we have all been there for the right patient or family at the right time….no one more than the other….NA’s are very much a part if this ❤

  101. bob groff

    I know you, Rita Macdonald. I know you through many other Rita’s who share your beautiful words. I thank them for doing what you’ve written. I thank you for speaking for them.

  102. Rose

    When my mother passed away three years ago, I was so grateful for the nurses who were gentle and kind to her during her last days. It hurt that I couldn’t be with her 24/7 but knowing that when my Dad, brother or I were not there, there was a kind nurse tending to her took away some of the pain. After she passed I made a point of thanking those nurses and let them know how very much it meant to me. I miss my mother terribly and it still hurts when I remember her suffering. But I always smile remembering those gentle souls and I always remember nurses in my prayers. I also make a point to express gratitude to nurses I meet day to day–just incase their patients and their families forget to. God Bless.

  103. Rose Ann Kossenjans

    As an employee of a hospital for almost 30 years, I see death & dying on a daily basis. This past November my 24 yr old son passed away of complications from a sudden cardiac arrest. He was in ICU for 3 weeks before we had to let him go. I made sure to thank all of the staff that worked on my son & after each shift, his nurse got a big hug & was told how much they were appreciated for all they do. They still seek me out for a hug when I come up to do one of their patients. I think it I’d good therapy for me as well as for them. God bless you.

  104. Shelia

    I’ll tell you this, for sure when my father in law was passing on we were not there. If it had not been for the nurse on duty calling us to say he was wanting us to come sit with him we would not have been there. Thanks to her we were there to be with him when he took his final breath. I will always be thankful to her and we let her know how much that meant to us.

  105. Dorothy Ball

    I read through at least half of these letters, and I cried most of the time. I can’t imagine being a nurse myself, but I am so thankful for all those that have dedicated their lives to caring for others. God bless each one.

  106. Mom

    Thank you to Nurse Kimberly for being so outstandingly caring and lightening the mood when my pregnant daughter was admitted tonight for some very serious blood test. You DEFINITELY win Top Honors in my book and I have seen a small percent of crappy to mediocre nurses to a massive amount of wonderful, caring and attentive nurses. You may never know how truly grateful we both are you were there for us tonight. Kudos to you and keep up the stellar job!

  107. Raylene

    My children used to complain I gave all my caring to my patients instead of them. I explained that was my job and there just wasn’t any left when I got home. Maybe not the best answer but it was true. My patients get my undivided attention even when I wasn’t there. But, in 40 yrs I have never regretted my career.

  108. Jon K

    As a ER tech and former nursing PCA on a med surge unit and EMT I can tell you this that it is so hard when you can’t do anything but help a person pass with honor.
    This past year I fought to give my father and father in-law the best care I could but it wasn’t enough. I still fight the feelings of failure for them. With all our training and work some times it isn’t enough. I work in a hospital and volunteer my time off on a small local Ambulance in the hope of helping that one person that may not have any hope without me.
    Love your family and friends and pray for us that do everything we can.

  109. Nina broughton

    God know exacley who can do his work my God Bless you, you are a caring person with love for your patients and there family what a blessing to know that you done your job we’ll,,I’m grateful and PRoud ,Thank you, from !,,The Broughton Family

  110. paula hamer

    I think u have put it in exact words. I work in a hospice and have experienced all you have said. Fantastic words said with emotion and empathy x

  111. Steven Pipitone

    If I were breathing my last breath, the last words would be to say thank you to all of the nurses that had taken care of me. For the time that they devoted to make me feel as comfortable as possible. For sitting for a little while just to talk with me and listen to me rant about the wonderful, little things that I would share with them and have them listen, so intently. for the times that I may not have made it to the bathroom and they were there to clean up the mess I made and hold my hand as I drifted off to sleep.

    A nurse is one of the greatest caretakers you will ever find. They are there every step of the way. They are the Angels you can see and when you leave to go on to a better place, a part of you still remains with them.

    God bless all of the nurses that strive to make our lives and yes, sometimes death much easier.

    Thank you!!!

  112. cathybuchanan

    My husband passed away June 4 after losing his battle with brain cancer. Ironically, it was a stroke after a successful brain surgery, not the cancer itself. We were at the hospital for 8 days, but my husband was really only aware for 1 or 2 of those. I was there every hour I was allowed in the ICU, and every time I walked through the door, his nurses would come in to check on me. Not only did they care for my husband whole on duty, but they prayed for him, checked in on him if they were off-shift, but passing by, and made sure I had everything I needed so I could focus my love and attention on him. If I needed a break, they would sit with him for a few minutes and make sure someone was keeping a close eye on him. When he passed away, every one of his nurses who was in the hospital came by to give me a hug and tell me how sorry they were. I even received a card from all of his nurses. I cannot thank that team enough for the loving care they took of both of us during my husband’s extended stay. I tried to get by and thank them, but I am sure a few slid through the cracks. Nurses are the most special, caring, strong, amazing people who bless others all shift long. Thank you for answering the call.

  113. Irene

    I have been so blessed by all the loving and honest sharing of these precious comments! Thank you! I have been a RN for 24 years in the acute care setting in many different areas and have witnessed the most beautiful and most sorrowful moments of my patients and their families lives. Death is a sacred moment in time. And I have been honored to be there when no one else can be there or to share that moment with their love ones. I have been thanked and I have been cursed, I have laughed and I have cried. It is my calling by the Grace of God!!!!

  114. bvillareal

    The nurses who took care of my father and are taking care of my mother now are true angels on earth. I thank you all for the hard work you do each and every day and being patient with the family members who are yelling at you when they are really yelling at the disease that is making their loved one suffer. God bless each and every one of you and may you be kept in the palm of His hands always!

  115. Susan

    As a critical care and trauma nurse for 22 years, this really hit home. Nurses suffer daily from a battered soul. The resilient ones who come.back the.next day to try again are the ones who make a difference.

  116. Lisa Schmidt

    My husband just died from terminal cancer on May 3 rd and I have to say how blessed we were to have wonderful nursing care both in the hospital and the hospice facility. I was so dreading hospice and then we were told we needed to go that direction. My husband only lived three days after he moved to hospice, but he was treated with such dignity that I just can’t thank them enough. I so admire and respect nurses and their dedication to their patients.

  117. Tarrols

    I’m impressed at all these testimonials to wonderful nurses, but I’m afraid I’ve met just as many hard, cold, seemingly emotionless nurses who treat patients (my relatives, and sometimes me) like we are annoying inconveniences they wish would just shut up and go away. I don’t doubt it’s a very difficult and heart-rending job. I doubt I could do it. But let’s not pretend every nurse is an angel of mercy. They’re human beings, and some of them are not kind and compassionate and caring, but hard and unkind and seemingly forgetful that they are dealing with human beings and not just inconveniences.

    1. Kerianne Dunlap

      I agree…as a nurse I have seen many that I am not proud of in this profession. I am deeply sorry u experienced this….I hope u have one that shows the other side of nursing….one who is “called” to the profession and not just there waiting for his/her shift to end.

  118. S Bedingfield

    When my dad died, the nurses were wonderful. They cried right along with us. The family loved them. The doctors, on the other hand, were the cause of his death. We sued them.

  119. stacy

    Being a NICU NURSE I have been through this. Sometimes losing more than one baby in a two week span. I was devistated, heartbroken. But the parents and families were very loving towards me. It did not make the situation easier but they appreciated the care I gave their baby and they new the docs and nurses did all we could. Its wonderful and devastating all rolled into one. As a nurse we have to take the good with the bad. I love being a nurse in good times and bad.

  120. darla cope

    My husband had a stoke a week ago. Every nurse from the I C U to the the Rehab was sweet and caring. Im so blessed to have such sweet nurses that took so good care of my husband as well as the techs just being the caring people as thy are. He has made such a great improvement and is continues to do.

  121. Jule

    I’ve been a trauma/flight nurse for over 26 years. It’s hard to turn off your emotions but sometimes you have to stay focused. I’ve cried with my patients and held their hands comforting them through rough times. It’s not easy. Sometimes that’s all they want. I care for my patients and will always be their advocate. It’s my job. It’s the love and respect for each and every one of them

  122. Chris M.

    As the daughter of a nurse… a Trauma ICU nurse… I have seen for most of my life what nurses bring home. I have answered my phone to have my mother say, “Tell your mother you love her.” And promptly did so, because I knew she’d had a rough day… or she was still having a rough day and it was the closest I could come to giving her the hug she sorely needed. Sometime during her day, something had reminded her of her daughters, or her grandbabies, and she had to call and check to make sure we truly were okay. Twice I received a phone call from her telling me a friend of mine was in her unit… and it wasn’t for a visit (after making sure it was okay with the family). Luckily, both times she didn’t have to say goodbye to one of her “other kids” as most of my friends were adopted by this amazing woman. I know and have seen the burden nurses carry, and I know and remember that they don’t just leave that burden as soon as they clock out. You have my respect, and understanding, and I wish everyone could have a glimpse into the life of a nurse. Thank you for this post, and the reminder of how amazingly wonderful my mother is… even though I don’t really need that reminder. :)

  123. Dawn

    As a float nurse I experience loss and death in the many stages the predictable and the sudden and I’ve seen all types of coping from shared tears to quiet escapes we may seem detached or even cold to those who do not nurse or have not experienced loss, rarely is your nurse either most times it’s a cope a way to hold it together because as mentioned above we can often relate your loved one to our parent or grandparent or the fear that we too could loose our child. We hurt for you and tho you may not know it your loved one is talked about long after they’re gone we remember them they leave a mark on us in my house it’s the angels patients and their loved ones have given me. My son knows I shed a tear and smile every Christmas as I hang a Christmas ornament I was given and he’ll say that’s from your special lady right mom. We share your loved one not their names or their illness but their sprite they touch us. They give us the strength to keep going so to those that grant us the honour of looking after your loved one thank you. Your loved one is a recipe, or a song, a joke or fond story we all carry them with us.

  124. Shawn

    Having been a nurse for a really long time I can’t tell you how patients any talk to their loved ones about dying, but we the nurse sit and hold their hand and listen … Help them cope with the finality of life . The family has a lot to deal with also …. They sometimes can’t bear to talk to their lived one about dying but someone has to and it the nurse… Give us a break , there is dignity in dying and that is what we are their for to care for your family and for you if you let us.

  125. Wendy Ann Lara-flores

    I love all the nurses I have had thought 98.5% of all my surgeries. They are kind and sweet as can be even knowing they’ve had a long or bad day!!! Thank you Patsy Keegan, & Julie Poole Gonzalez for practicing nursing and being RN’s :)

  126. leon embang

    a nurse feelings was perfectly described and well said our time and effort is not for us but devoted for our pts. our hearts broke when ever we see them go,our tears fall and flood our eyes unnoticed,yet some do not appreciate the nurse duty to care and cure.Nevertheless lets walk the path of our chosen journey up to the very end.

  127. John David

    Having lost a son of 19 to a horrible blood infection. I believe all nurses will have a special place in heaven. Thank you.

  128. Kpshingleton

    I have been in the hospital many times. I had six heart attacks. Nine heart grafts, eight stints a pacemaker. I’ll stop now. But I wool say this. God bless my nurses and Doctors. They have kept me alive since 1989. By the grace of God and the skills given to these caring professionals I say thank you. Sincerely. Keith Shingleton.

  129. Sanci

    I’m a PICU nurse in a level 1 hospital. I know this story intimately. There are patients that never leave you, to this day I remember the date and exact time they left this world. Held hands of children who were dying alone because their parents could not bare the incredible pain of what was happening. Your post definitely made me tear. Thank you for all you do, from one nurse to another :-)

  130. Brenda Pickett

    My husband had a male nurse that used to make him laugh every time he came into the room. The nurse would tell everyone that was in the room that had never saw him do it before to “watch this” he would scan this armband before giving him his meds and the machine would beep and he would say “thank you for shopping at Wal-Mart” lol I never got tired of hearing that. I wanted to enjoy every moment my husband had left on this earth and he was a man that loved to laugh and joke around. God could not have sent us a more perfect nurse. I thank all nurses for what you do, you are compassionate, giving people, and to those that appreciate it, and understand your calling you are an encouragement and help to lighten a very heavy burden. Thank You!

  131. Anneli

    I’ve been a nurse for over 20 yrs. I left nursing for several years to do something else. During that time my dad became very ill at a young age and died in an ICU. I had been an ICU nurse. I so appreciated the nurse that was honest with me. Even though I was a nurse… at that time I was a daughter who was clinging onto hope. I’ve since come back to nursing and I work in the ER now. My experiences allow me to have incredible empathy for others who are going through times like this. I do sometimes feel they don’t really believe I care as much as I do. This really touched me, because, I do care and my heart breaks over and over again for the losses of others.

  132. Daphne

    I am so incredible proud of you, you’ve said it all this needs to go into print. We neglected our
    Own families to care for our patient, gone without food, got home so exhausted we have no use
    To our family, we gave our all caring for the sick. This should be published in a book I think it
    Would be a best seller. Someone needs to tell the what nurses really do. God bless you

  133. Kerianne Dunlap

    Some patients never leave…they stay with us in one way or another. As a new nurse I did not understand how to weave this thread into my life while going back to shifts in ICU/O.R./Ambulance….getting better at it now 14yrs later but also dealing with PTSD. Some of my patients have made me who I am and I dearly care for them still…others I will never forget with tears and a wish that I could have changed the circumstances that took them.
    Thank you to the patients and families that have taken a moment to hold our hands and recognize this….that moment is why I return each day.
    To other nurses/docs/ems….please….let’s take care of each other and be kind to ourselves

  134. Melon

    I often run into a woman whose husband died after a difficult struggle with cancer. He was a really nice man and a loving family. Now when I see his wife she pretends she doesn’t know me. I understand I remind her of a very difficult time. What she doesn’t understand was it was hard for me as well. I truly cared and he touched my heart. It is alright she ignores me if it is easier I hope I was a help at the time

  135. Michelle

    I think this is a wonderful page and says it all, I am a nurse and have worked in several areas, I could be a hospice nurse and have great respect for them as each of my patient die I feel at times a little of me goes with them! Thankfully I have never experienced the negative experience you do! I’m sorry you felt that as WE as nurses I believe have something in us that wants to give our all to others and t times leave nothing left for ourselves family or friends as we are often spent! Please appreciate us a kind look, nod of the head or even a thank you is greatfully appreciated, you are all wonderful people and thank you for being who you are

  136. Deborah m

    Speaking from the experience of being at the bedside of a dying patient I think this piece was very well written.you can’t know what the nurses go through unless you are one.I have spent many a night lying in bed going over and over what I did at the hospital that day.

  137. mandacloye

    As a nurse myself, I have done just as this nurse suggested and pulled the curtain for the last time to care for my patient and say my own goodbyes. I am not an emotional person, but I find that last time to be something that allows me to express my feelings toward my patient. I also try to express my thanks to the families for the privilege, as I feel strongly that it IS a privilege to have cared for their family member. Most families are grateful for this expression from the caregivers.

  138. Deirdre Mc Govern

    I choose to be a little bit alternative, I will be sad, I will cry, then I will take a plant, put your name on it, have you in my garden of dreams, and I will chat when I need council. No one leaves without a piece of them being imprinted on my soul. My garden is quite beautiful, and I appreciate what others might call weeds, I look at them with interest, not my job to poison you, you are here for a purpose too.

  139. mike

    I live with three nurses and I know they can not talk about they work but knowing them as the caring people they are I can tell when they have had a bad week they lay around the house and cry when they think nobody is around so as a father of a nurse in S.S.I and a NURSE IN E.R and a husband of a nurse for 30 years I can promise your family is not forgot and on to the next nurses went in to this field to help people because they love people and I promise you even if nothing could be done they now only did they best they will live the rest of they life wondering if it coukd and they will rember your family member a lot logger than most people because because to them its not just a job they care that’s why they are there

  140. Samantha Santos

    As a Licensed Nurse Assistant I have had the privilege of giving a person many of their “lasts” while still they were still breathing on this earth, just before they pass. It is an honor and a privilege. I have also co-parented, sang to, and somehow inspired patients in my care. They are the most brave, dear, strong, and miraculous people and they have changed and inspired me for the better. *hug*

  141. Ashley Cross

    This is so true, this should be posted in every waiting room for folks to read!!!! As a nurse & being on the other side as a family member, I say “thank you to all the wonderful nurses out there!!!!”

  142. John D

    My wife Nely was a nurse for 40 some years and I can relate to the story you told She didn’t bring home her problems very often but now and then she would share some of them
    Also her happy days when she was able to help save someone’s life
    About three and half years ago after she retired she was diagnosed with the dreaded decease of Alzheimer’s and then to make matters worse last January while we were visiting friends in Bradenton Florida she was struck in the head by a lady who backed her SUV into a crowd at a church parking lot
    She spend the next 5 days in ICU in Blake Hospital Bradenton then in ICU in Sarnia On then ended up on a mental floor in Blue Water Health , the same hospital where she worked all her life.
    The Nursing staff has been nothing but amazing how they cared for her during the next 6 months
    I made it a point to thank them daily and bring them a gift from time to time
    It takes a special person to go into the nursing profession and I got to know this first hand as a spouse and also as I visited with my wife daily
    I now have her at home for as long as possible
    Thank you to all the nurses who care and give more than is asked from them

  143. sharon tremlett

    I’m a nurse in the UK…… I just wanted to commend you for putting these things in writing.
    Although I’m now working in Out-patients I’ve spent many years on the wards and these things are the same this side of the Atlantic,
    God Bless YOU for what you do and for putting this into words many of us can’t…. I’ve said ‘Goodbye’ at various times and as you say, some of them just ‘stay’ with you in ways you can’t explain.

  144. Alma

    After 40years in the profession, I can truly identify with this young man. Nursing is a profession of love, happiness, and sadness all mixed into one but a choice I would do all over again. From a retired RN

  145. Eric Pozo

    I had a patient who thanked me for all the help given and said goodby my friend and closed his eyes and passed away a hell of an experience an incident in my nursing career that I can never forget

  146. Sherrie

    We are all human..we care..its our nature…its a shame that one bad apple can spoil the view of all. Nurses at the VA helped me as my dad was leaving us. I appreciate nurses!

  147. Sheri pie

    As a acute tertiary palliative and now hospice nurse, I have have seen many patients pass, you really captured the essence of it, thank you, it made tear up in joy of how much I appreciate what I can help my patients and families with in end of life. Many times we are the last face a patient sees, and many times we tell them it’s ok to let go whole caressing there forehead snd holding there hand and your right it’s behind closed doors.

  148. maria

    My gram just passed away a few weeks ago. The nurses at the hospital for the hospice unit were awesome. They were so kind to my gram talking to her even though she was unresponsive. The morning she died the nurse just hugged my mom while she cried. I give all nurses a huge thank you becausr I couldn’t do it.

  149. Kay

    I am an intensive care nurse and recently had a situation just like this with a patient that was dying and had no family close enough. The friends did not want to be present at the end and once they said they said their goodbyes and left, I sat and I held her hand and was there for her while she passed. I felt pain for not being able to stop the inevitable and sorrow for her family, but this is part of our role. To care support and show compassion to others in need. I could not bare the thought of anyone dying alone or in discomfort, therefore I treat those how I would want my family treated. As a nurse we hold our emotions high, trying to put everyone else first but we face challenges in our work that nobody should have to on a day to day basis. Some people just feel we are they only people to blame when grief strikes. We are people too and they may not be related to us but every patient has an impact and we do our best for all of them.

  150. deborah

    This is beautifully said and heartwarmingly felt. As a nursing assistant, i could not have expressed any other way. It has been an honor and gift to have had the pleasure of meeting family and caring for loved ones. I am so blessed.

  151. renee bowyer

    Thank you for posting this. You stated it eloquently. I am a night shift R.N. and lately I have been taking care of a lot of patients having to transfer to Hospice care. They have been to far in in there prognosis to be discharged home, in turn I have been at the beside with the families during the loved ones last hours…and wondering how I am going to explain my tear filled eyes and reddened face to the remaining patients on my team and remain focused on their needs as well.Thank you again.

  152. Marjorie Hopkins

    This made me cry…20 years of Critical Care Nursing…I have said Goodbyes many times, many ways…to young and old alike. The ones that made me cry hardest, was when we said Goodbye to our own colleagues…our own nurses, aides, secretaries, Doctors, housekeepers, hospital staff we worked with and loved…from diseases, sickness, accidents…But no matter who they were, or how they died, I said a silent prayer over each, for we all deserve to find heaven after this crazy life!

  153. Maureen Ray

    I am a school psychologist and work with individuals and families who deal with lifelong disabilities and life threatening situations while still trying to make the most of their day to day lives. We ALL need people like you to bring the joy of living and humor back to our lives!! PLEASE continue on doing what you do!! So beneficial to many!!!

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